tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post8815195508452632569..comments2023-10-30T03:28:34.275-07:00Comments on Losing It!: Feeling Better-The Amazing RaceUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-50701640365929072102011-02-22T14:23:33.069-08:002011-02-22T14:23:33.069-08:00I think I know what you mean. My dad got married ...I think I know what you mean. My dad got married in October and his new wife has two daughters. One of them is pregnant and we were talking at Christmas about gaining weight while pregnant. I told her I gained about 70 lbs. And she said it looked like I had no trouble losing it. I think it made her feel better and I didn't say anything about having WLS to lose it. She's only known me thin. I don't know. You're right! This is hard stuff to discuss.<br /><br />Fingers crossed for offers on your house!<br /><br />Are you bringing Grace to Eugene? I think my kids will be with me.Amanda Kiskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08035180757671095192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-27951314030019653852011-02-22T12:10:36.867-08:002011-02-22T12:10:36.867-08:00I think you are bothered by the superficiality of ...I think you are bothered by the superficiality of these acquaintances. People are (or were) seeing you as what you look like rather than as who you are.<br /><br />What it tells you, though, is about their short-comings. It is not a reflection on you. Nonetheless, it is hard not to take that personal.<br /><br />Your true friends, those that know you for you, they are the ones that show you the image of who you are to yourself.<br /><br />That would be my take on it, from what you said...LDswimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16047339088972152520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-28217499348871136992011-02-22T06:49:44.689-08:002011-02-22T06:49:44.689-08:00Kind of flattering, in a way. But sorta crappy in ...Kind of flattering, in a way. But sorta crappy in another. I mean, not to say you look the same, but you have the same eyes and smile, all that. It's just more "emerged" now, if you will. You were still beautiful at your highest. I don't see why some people are so surprised at how good we look when we lose weight. I know I'm beautiful now, and I will be then, too!Rhondahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02136948771014366470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-9498811794164184322011-02-22T05:21:40.260-08:002011-02-22T05:21:40.260-08:00I think maybe it comes with having liked yourself ...I think maybe it comes with having liked yourself all along, in spite of the weight.<br /><br />It's thrilling when people don't recognize you, until you wonder if it's because they didn't really look at you and KNOW you when you were fat. Like, I look different but I'm still the same-- I should be recognizable! I've sort of started to think it says more about the other person's avoidance and disregard of fat people, of whom I was(am) one, than it has anything to do with me personally.Lylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09330598009302675050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-45446519546325091272011-02-22T02:52:39.322-08:002011-02-22T02:52:39.322-08:00I remember the flip side: someone saying to me at...I remember the flip side: someone saying to me at a party years ago the classic painful remark - Oh my God you've put on so much weight I didn't recognise you. And I said 'I'm still the same person inside' - to which she didn't reply. We had got on well when we worked together years before, and I suppose I was appealing to her to remember that I was no different. But I had 'lost' her. <br />I think people basically don't want the world around them to change, and they don't know what to do or what to say when it does. So in reply to your conundrum I would say that whatever happens to us externally, our inner core remains the same, and we want people to treat us for what we are inside. But only people who care about us do that.<br />CarolineLonicerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13141723287143567146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-77289918958477189182011-02-22T00:57:35.976-08:002011-02-22T00:57:35.976-08:00Good news on the house viewers. I kind of underst...Good news on the house viewers. I kind of understand how you feel about the comments on your new appearance, although I have a long way to go I feel sad for the old me when someone comments on how much weight I've lost.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03267116546096340339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-78511341648479844812011-02-21T20:04:42.441-08:002011-02-21T20:04:42.441-08:00Tina, I think you felt awkward by the lack of reco...Tina, I think you felt awkward by the lack of recognition because you felt that you were being defined by your weight; when in reality you are the same person just in a different shell. I've seen your inner beauty through your blog and your comments; I know that has probably always been there. Your journey to better health has probably season this beauty and made it richer though. Thanks for being there for a Newbie now a Mediumbie...I appreciate you so much and your messages that end with xoxoxRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10594536445697602339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1766613753047552174.post-82671359965808797462011-02-21T19:49:59.288-08:002011-02-21T19:49:59.288-08:00Glad you are feeling better. I hope all the new tr...Glad you are feeling better. I hope all the new traffic means the market is picking up and offers will be made soon!<br />Looking forward to meeting you!Jen from Oregonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17847241485437289347noreply@blogger.com